Patterns of "Friendship" BEWARE!

This morning my wonderful cousin posted a very significant photo-link on Facebook.  I have added it to this blog as a photo.  I need to discuss the message much further in this blog because I know exactly what the problem is and it is more that what the photo states.

Folks have to be cognizant of how they form relationships. Certain dependent and toxic patterns must be stopped early. Once we recognize the formation of toxic relationship patterns, if we do not stop it, then we become enablers.

Here are some examples of dependent and toxic relationship patterns you may have encountered: 

•  when a classmate ONLY makes contact at test time; 

• a co-worker who ONLY makes contact when stressed out at the workplace; 

• a relative who makes contact ONLY when money is needed; 

•  a colleague who you NEVER EVER heard from until a reference is needed. 

Just note how foolishly dependent folks are who start those toxic patterns. When you experience these problems, you must stop it and discontinue communications. 

These functionally disabled/dependent folks need to LEARN how to make contact when things are going well. It is easy!!!!

• Why not meet up for coffee?

• Why not "do lunch" or "do dinner"?

• Why not invite the person over for a quick meal and chat?

Probably requires too much effort... Hence that is why the relationship is T-O-X-I-C!

You will further need to put up those bricks that are forming that wall as shown in the picture below.